One thing I have written about a couple of times is the judgement the abused get from the non-abused. It’s not always a deliberate judgment but more of innate sense of being utterly unable to empathize with our strife. It is just a natural instinct to say…”Why doesn’t she just leave?” or “I would never stay with a man who hit me.” and of course there is always the “It can’t be that bad if she’s still there.” What it boils down to is an ignorance that really is not their fault. They’ve never been abused. As wrong as it is for someone who has never been hit to judge my situation it is equally wrong for me to judge their lack of sensitivity. But one out of four of those who judge us will eventually join our sisterhood.
This one was posted by: Teela Hart
I have said many times that I would never be with a man who abuses me. As a nurse, my training taught me to recognize the signs of abuse; as an ER nurse, I had occasionally cared for abused women (not that domestic violence is a respecter of either sex).
I employed educational materials and I prepared a “one size fits all” speech completely bereft of first-hand knowledge, and gladly so. I was innocent to the trappings of Domestic Violence.
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