When you hear the phrase Domestic Violence, what imagery does your mind bring forward? Is it of a woman’s bruised face? Maybe you can picture a man screaming at his wife or girlfriend. If you are a woman who has been a victim of physical violence, you probably envision a man doing bodily harm to a woman. All of these portrayals are valid. All of them represent the physical brutality that we have come to know – either by depiction on television or in the movies or even in our own lives.
However, there is another viewpoint. It’s not one that I can readily connect with because I’m not familiar with it. And for that reason, my blog is very one-sided because it is taken from my own perspective and my own life. I do not intentionally post things to dismiss the other angle, which is a very real part of the Domestic Violence epidemic. As a woman, there is a shame that hovers over us that is part of what keeps us from stepping forward and admitting our circumstance. That shame is tenfold for a man because human nature has taught us that a (good) man is the head of the family…the protector of the family. And especially because this topic is almost never covered on the news or anywhere else, we can’t fathom that it’s true or that the man involved couldn’t just get up and walk away because…well, he’s a man.
FACT: Male victims of emotional abuse may experience partners that:
- Yell and scream
- Threaten them and try to induce fear
- Insult and demean them; tell them they are not worth the trouble
- Socially isolate them
- Lie or withhold information
- Treat them like a child or servant
- Control all the finances
When Women Emotionally Abuse Men
- Some believe that men are more sensitive to emotional abuse than a woman and can “brush off” physical abuse more easily.
- Male victims of emotional abuse who are called a “coward,” “impotent,” or a “failure,” may be more affected by these remarks than their female counterparts.
Some people may scoff at Domestic Violence being perpetrated against men, however, just as there is for women a large umbrella under which there are numerous types of abuse, it is the same for a man. It’s not always physical. There is verbal and emotional abuse towards men as well as sexual assault. Just because violence against men is not the normal visual doesn’t mean it is non-existent.
Fact Source: Suffer In Silence
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