Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Codependency and Marriage
Emotional codependence is when a person believes they need someone else to feel happy and good about themselves and to ‘cheer them up’ and help overcome their negative emotions. This person may also feel responsible for other people’s negative feelings.
It’s wonderful to be loved and appreciated. However, Codependency and Marriage are a disastrous mix. Needing someone’s love and approval to feel good about yourself and/or feeling responsible every time your partner feels angry or upset, will soon make married life a tough chore.
A healthy person must sometimes make decisions other family members don’t like and still be able to get on with their own life. Making tough decisions like this, with courage, may cause hostility and resentment short term, but long term this will earn people’s love, trust and respect. However this will be very tough for someone with patterns of emotional codependence (codependency). A codependent will have a hard time sticking to anything (including their own values) that causes their partner to be angry or unhappy with them. When it comes to raising children, this same inability may cause serious problems with discipline and healthy role modeling in the codependent’s home.
Narcissism and Marriage
Narcissism and Marriage are an even worse mix. People with Narcissistic tendencies won’t appreciate the way their codependent spouse may go about getting his or her emotional needs met. In love with the idea of being loved and adored, If they see that their marriage partner is unhappy, a narcissist will seek love and approval outside the marriage and start treating other people better than their spouse. The narcissist will let nothing stand in the way of finding their next adoring fan. They will lie, cheat and steal if need be, while blaming all of their current problems and dissatisfaction on their spouse’s unhappiness, with little or no thought for their partner’s feelings or whether what they are blaming on them is just.
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